1. Wants To Get Involved Fast - Right away he wants you to promise to only be with him/her. Says " No one's ever loved me like you do"
2. Jealous - He wants to make sure you aren't with anyone else. Calls all the time or show up without telling you he's is coming
3. Want To Control You - Want to know who you talked to and where you were. Checks mileage on your car. Keeps all the money. Makes you ask for his OK to go anywhere or do anything.
4. Expects You To Be Perfect - He expects you to know what he wants and meets his every needs.
5. Cuts You Off From Others - Doesn't want you to see family and friends. He won't let you have a phone or car and doesn't want you to work.
6. Blames Others For Problems - If anything goes wrong, it's always someone else's fault. Everyone is out to get him.
7. Blames Other For His Feelings - He says " You're hurting me by no doing what I tell you or " Yo make me mad" instead of " I'm mad".
8. Get Upset Easily - He gets mad about things that are just part of life.
9. Hurts Animals and Children - Kills or punishes animals. Wants children to do things they can't or teases them until they cry.
10. Uses Force During Sex - Enjoys throwing you down or holding you down against your will during sex. Says he finds the idea of raping exciting.
11. Says Things To Hurt You - Always criticizing you or says cruel things to make you fell less worthy. Calls you ugly or ugly names.
12. Thinks Women Should Obey Men - Wants you to serve, obey and stay home.
13. Sudden Changes In Mood - Switches from sweet and loving to mad in within a few minutes.
14. Has Hit Women Before - Says he hit women in the past.
15. Says He Will Hurt You - Says things like " I'll Break Your Neck", then says " I Didn't Mean it."
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